When I was a kid, I read for hours a day. I was never without a book, either tucked under my arm or in my bag, or in my hand – I often read and walked at the same time (that might explain some confusing scars). I remember in the 5th grade, a friend of mine (maybe my only friend) trying to explain why all the other kids thought I was weird. Their derision was split; half based on the way I wore bandannas on my pants a la Punky Brewster (oh yes, I did), and half on a word I hadn’t heard before. “You’re a bookworm.”
After I graduated high school, my reading slowed down. I don’t remember why, I don’t recall any specific incident or trail of thought that led to me reading so much less. I still always had a book with me, except now it was often a self-help book, as I was continually dissatisfied with myself. From there I moved to many years of reading about religion (having found myself – not in any book, it’s worth noting – it was time to find God).
At the beginning of this year I surveyed the last decade and realized that my vast library was basically a tribute to every hobby or interest I’d had in that time. I was awash in books about the violin, playing the guitar, website building, pets, gardening, HAM radio, beading, knitting, camping, bicycling, photography, homeschooling, unschooling, drawing, buying a house, selling a house, building a house, urban farms, homesteading, herbalism, massage, the simplicity movement, personal finance, raising kids, astronomy, Buddhism, yoga, sign language, nutrition, cooking, writing…..
…..but where were the stories? I could pick out maybe one or two a year. I was stunned. What happened to me? Sure, I was reading, but I wasn’t reading. I miss fantastical tales! I miss fiction! I miss biographies! I miss history! I was reading all the time to the kids, yet rarely for myself.
But why had I stopped? Had I outgrown reading? If I missed it, why did I ever give it up?
The answer surprised me. I realized that whenever I read fiction, I felt the weight of my obligations pressing down on me. Maybe it’s the quiet? Sitting down with a story, I was suddenly aware of laundry needing to be done, dishes needing to be washed, a table needing to be cleared. I would get a page in, maybe two, and then abandon the book to go putter. The subject-focused books I read didn’t feel that way, I think because my brain somehow classified those books as “being productive”. Learning about how to sell our house was being productive, as was reading about yoga or some other practice I was going to integrate into my life.
Watching a movie or a TV show didn’t seem to aggravate my squirrel-brain either. I was able to forget my chores, only remembering after the movie was over and I was putting away my tea mug that, WOOPS, the sink was full. I just spent two hours watching Sigourney Weaver blow away chest-bursters instead of filling the dishwasher.
The last few months I’ve been training myself to ignore my other obligations while I read a book. It’s the best thing I’ve done for myself, personally, in years. And it’s not irresponsible, as it might sound – my quest to get back into books has led to…
…Less stuff. I’ve been realizing how much I love to read, and how this pales in comparison to other things, which I can let go of. So I’ve been freecycling, and selling off parts of several other hobbies.
…Better housekeeping. The best way to calm that part of my brain that’s always rattled by things on the “To Do” list is to do a few of them, and then sit down with a good book. Now, I do chores so that I can read.
…A lot more inner peace.
…A lot more time spent at the library with the kids. We’re all picking out books now. I love our time together there, and so do Miles and Beth.
…My writing has improved. No, not a novel. I do almost all my writing privately. It’s the best (only?) way I have to understand my own feelings. Other people seem able to talk with a friend or just sit under a tree for a few hours and “get some thinking done”, coming away with a fresh perspective on a tough situation or a resolution to a problem. I have to spend those couple of “thinking hours” with a pencil and paper, or I’ll basically get nowhere. People close to me have often remarked, “This is what makes you a writer, that you have to write, that it’s not an option,” but truthfully I think it’s what makes me a mutant. At any rate, reading more has led to clearer writing, which has led to clearer thinking, which has benefited my personal life.
…An expanded sense of the world, a feeling that the world is both larger than I ever though, yet somehow more reachable than I ever believed. You just can’t help that. Reading opens you up. It just does.
…Personal inspiration. For example, I just finished a biography of Katharine Hepburn. That woman was amazing. I know she’s been dead for awhile, but for me she just died the other night, and I’m still thinking about her.
There’s more, but I think this is a pretty good list as it stands, and it’s time for my tea. I write this to encourage other would-be readers out there, adults who have maybe fallen out of the habit of picking up a good book, who find themselves reading the paper or how-to books or books about particular subjects, but who have temporarily forgotten the elation of a really excellent story. It’s never too late to jump back in! The water is just fine.
And if you fall asleep while you’re reading, that’s okay too….

Miles, 2004